I follow a young lady, Kayla Gulick, a stay at home mother of four, who blogs as Lessons of mercy.  Ms. Gulick covers a wide range of topics but mostly deals with family relationships and her interaction with the world as a follower of Christ. The following posting caught my attention as it deals with a subject which is more and more on my heart – the increasing coarseness of society and the difficulty in maintaining a pure heart. What can a person do to remain pure at heart? Or, as Karla asks, how can we create a safe environment where one can thrive in Christ without being friends with the world? RMF

Kayla Gulick Lessons of Mercy

Kayla Gulick
Lessons of Mercy


By: Kayla Gulick

A few months ago, a friend of mine who just went back to work in a hospital after being a stay at home mom for seven or so years said to me “I didn’t realize how sheltered I was. You should hear these women talk. They curse like nobodies business and gossip constantly, even to me, on my first couple days of training. It was like culture shock.”

I thought about what she said and realized, my kids are sheltered – but “I’m” extremely sheltered as well, maybe even more than them. 

In the last two days, I listened to a song on YouTube that a friend told me to listen to and I couldn’t believe it. And then, I turned on the news today on the television (something I haven’t done in YEARS) and the VERY first thing I saw was a commercial for a new television show called “Mistresses.”

The commercial, playing at noon, had mostly naked women rolling on top of men without shirts on in what I would classify as nothing less than pornography. So if the name wasn’t enough to get you, the visual display sure would.

(Ms. Gulick included a link to the trailer at this point in her posting.  I’m personally afraid to check it out because I’m afraid that the cyber miners would then link me to similar sites and advertisements — and through experience I have found it best to avoid any such internet associations.  RMF)

I was dumbfounded.

And felt intense relief that my children were NOT in the room when I turned the TV on, again – at NOON to watch THE NEWS.

Being sheltered has a REALLY bad wrap. Whenever I tell anyone that we send our kids to private Christian school, or that friends of ours home school, there is a list of at least 5 objections – but the number one is ALWAYS “they’re going to be so sheltered, socially awkward and go crazy in college.”

I disagree.

I suppose if there is not active parenting, then the chances of that are much higher. But for every ridiculously crazy “kid gone wild” story you’ve heard – there are many more out there of kids who didn’t do that as well.

Classic case of judging a group by the acts of one member.

Anyway, the maturity level of a college kid often plays into the failure of giving into temptations – but not always. I know plenty of adults who succumb to peer pressure very easily. I have, plenty of times.

I actually think being sheltered helps aid in the success of not going wild.

Here me out.

Do you know why that song and that commercial bothered me so much? Because I NEVER, EVER see or hear things like that. And so it was VERY easy and EXTREMELY obvious that those were disturbing, wrong and inappropriate.

I remember when I use to cuss constantly. There was a time when someone said “did you hear what she just said?” And I hadn’t. There was nothing obvious about the curse word because it was a part of my every day life.

Now however, I can’t watch a single rated R movie, and VERY limited PG 13 ones because if there is any cussing, it drives me crazy!! Especially useless cursing.

Let me clarify incase this is being read wrong, I do not believe sheltered is the same as uneducated.

Being uneducated is dangerous. It’s wise to know what is happening in the world. We can’t make proper choices if we are unaware of the circumstances of the situations and world we live in.

But being sheltered means creating a safe environment where one can thrive in Christ without being friends with the world.

Think about it –

The definition of shelter is – a dwelling place or home considered as a refuge from the elements.

Why wouldn’t we all want to be sheltered from the evil elements of this world?

If today has left me with nothing else – it has left me with an even greater urgency to pray for my husband who is out in the world more often than I am and to make sure our home is a safe shelter.

Practical Application:

Accept being called “sheltered” as a positive thing instead of an insult.

Rejoice in and preserve the shelter of our home, keeping it safe and free from dangers to our spiritual health.

Pray more earnestly for my husband who faces the elements on a more regular basis.


About ronfurg

Former naval officer, federal investigator, forensic scientist, senior executive service member and pastor. In retirement serves as volunteer and life group leader at New Life Christian Church ( Devoted to beautiful wife, kids and grandkids. Looking forward to the time when every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord of all and that He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
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